Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn would have to be in my top 5 books. It is a paradigm shifter. It is such an awesome book and effectively puts in to question a premise that our culture has deeply entrenched, that is, that the best way to get people to do what you want (ie. control them) is to reward them for desired behavior, and/or punish them for undesirable behavior. In fact, not only is it not the best way, it actually works against our goals in the long run.
I would love this book to be required reading for every teacher, employer and parent in our country.
Today: A good but exhausting day. Charlie has not had a chance to catch up on any sleep and we had a busy day out of the house at the local ag show, so Ian had some difficulty getting him undressed and in to the bath. Ian had his buttons pushed, Charlie is so chronically sleep deprived. I will keep this in mind tomorrow and try and get him in to bed early.